The Quick Read: Gift funds suit buyers whose family can give a clean amount with no strings. Assistance suits buyers who have no family help, or whose family can cover only part of the gap. A gift is a one-time transfer with no lien. Assistance comes from a program, and it is either a grant with nothing to repay or a second loan. The two can sometimes sit in the same file, but only if the program allows it and the lender documents both.
Side-by-Side
The table below covers the four assistance shapes the wholesale programs place alongside a government first mortgage, next to a family gift. The refinance-cost second applies to an FHA refinance, not a purchase, so a family gift has no role there. Every program is subject to lender guidelines and full underwriting.
| Factor | Family gift | Grant | Forgivable second | Repayable second | Refinance-cost second |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Repayment | None | Nothing to repay | Forgiven after 36 or 60 on-time payments | Real loan, balloon in year 10 | Same terms as repayable second |
| Credit floor | Set by the first lien | 620 | 640 (660 blended) | 660 (670 blended) | 660 (670 blended) |
| Income test | None | 140% of area median, unless a category applies | None beyond USDA’s own | None beyond USDA’s own | Same as repayable second |
| First-lien pairing | FHA, USDA, others | FHA only | FHA, USDA, HUD-184 | FHA, USDA, HUD-184 | FHA 203(b) refinance only |
| Counseling | None | Homebuyer education required | Not required | Not required | Same as repayable second |
| Lien on the home | None | None | Second lien | Second lien | Second lien |
| Amount | Donor’s choice | 2% or 3.5% of price | 3.5% of price or value | 3.5% or 5% of price or value | 1% to 3.5% of balance or value |
Two notes on the table. The assistance amounts are percentages of price or value (balance or value on the refinance option), and the lesser-of rule applies to the second liens. And the grant is not offered in Washington.
What Counts as a Gift
A gift is cash with no expectation of repayment. HUD’s FHA guidance lists acceptable donors as a family member, an employer or union, a close friend with a documented interest, a charity, or a governmental agency. The donor and borrower sign a gift letter. It names the donor, the relationship and the amount, and it states that no repayment is required.
Sellers, builders and agents are not on that list. A gift from anyone with a stake in the sale cannot fund your minimum investment.
On FHA, the minimum investment is 3.5% of the lesser of price or appraised value, and HUD’s FHA FAQ points to Handbook 4000.1 for where those funds can come from. A gift can cover it if the source rules are met. Gifts of equity are narrower. Only family members can give them, and only on a sale between relatives.
USDA is different underneath. USDA’s program overview says no down payment is required and that gift and grant funds are allowed. So on a USDA first lien, a gift often goes to closing costs rather than a down payment.
What Assistance Is
Across the wholesale programs Lendmire places files with, assistance comes in four shapes.
- Grant. 2% or 3.5% of the price, released at closing. No lien, no payment, no interest.
- Forgivable second. 3.5% of the lesser of price or value. No interest and no monthly payment. It is forgiven after 36 or 60 on-time first-lien payments.
- Repayable second. 3.5% or 5%. At 5%, the extra 1.5% goes toward closing costs and prepaid items. It is a real loan with a monthly payment, a 30-year amortization and a balloon due in year 10.
- Refinance-cost second. 1% to 3.5% of the balance on an FHA refinance, with combined leverage to 104%.
Nobody has to be a first-time buyer. Repeat buyers qualify. The grant’s income test is 140% of area median income, but it falls away if you are a first responder, educator, medical worker, civil servant, military member, a first-time buyer, or buying in an underserved census tract. The second liens carry no income limit beyond USDA’s own on a USDA loan.
All of it is for an owner-occupied primary residence. Not a second home. Not a rental.
Public programs vary widely. Urban Institute data shows more than 1,600 active funded programs nationally, with different structures and rules from one provider to the next. That is why a file needs a lender who knows which program fits. You can read more about the down payment assistance programs Lendmire arranges through wholesale lenders.
When Down Payment Assistance Is the Better Fit
Assistance wins when family money is thin, missing or complicated.
There is no family gift available. Many buyers rent, have modest savings, and have no relative able to give. A grant or forgivable second fills that gap without asking anyone for anything.
The family can cover only part. A partial gift toward the minimum investment can still leave a hole. Assistance can fill the rest, if the program allows a gift and assistance together. Confirm that before you count on it.
You want no family strings. A gift carries no legal strings, but it can carry personal ones. Some families attach expectations, and some donors feel entitled to a say. A grant has none of that.
You qualify for the grant. If you are an educator, nurse, first responder, public employee or veteran, the grant is easy to overlook. It is a plain 2% or 3.5% with nothing to repay. The catch: the lender needs an HUD-approved homebuyer education course, and the grant only pairs with FHA first liens.
You can handle a second loan. The repayable second adds a monthly payment, and the balloon in year 10 means a sale or refinance, or a payoff from savings. The forgivable second asks only that you keep paying the first mortgage on time for three or five years. Both are loans secured by a lien, and the lender must count them in your qualifying ratios.
The tradeoff is paperwork. Assistance is its own file. The program has a credit floor above the plain FHA floor, the lender has to be one the program accepts, and a second lien needs its own disclosure and recording. Credit floors of 620 to 660 will screen some buyers out.
Urban Institute research also reports that borrowers who get down payment assistance repay at the same rate as those who do not.
When Gift Funds Are the Better Fit
A gift wins when the family can give a clean amount and the buyer wants the simplest file.
The gift covers the whole minimum investment. If a parent can fund the 3.5% outright, there is no second lien, no program credit floor and no homebuyer education requirement. The first lien stands alone.
Your credit is under the program floors. FHA’s own minimum investment applies at a representative score of 580 or higher. The assistance options carry higher floors, 620 and up. A buyer between those lines can still use a documented gift.
You earn above the grant limit and fit no category. If your income tops 140% of area median and you are not in a qualifying group, the grant is out. A gift has no income test.
You want no lien and no payment. A gift adds no new debt. A repayable second adds a payment, and a forgivable second sits on the title until it is forgiven.
The loan is USDA and you want to stay lean. USDA allows no-down-payment financing. A gift can cover closing costs, and assistance is allowed as long as the USDA loan stays in first position.
The tradeoff is the paper trail. This is where gift files break.
Where Gift Files Break
The gift letter is not enough. The lender also has to see the money move. For a gift verified before settlement, that usually means a donor statement showing the withdrawal with the deposit shown on the buyer’s side. For a gift delivered at closing, it means an electronic transfer to the settlement agent or an official check. A line on the Closing Disclosure does not prove a transfer.
Common gaps:
1. A large deposit appears in the buyer’s account with no letter behind it.
2. The letter says “gift” but the donor expects repayment.
3. The donor is a seller, agent or builder.
4. The donor pulls from cash on hand, with no account to trace.
5. The gift lands after the lender’s review and nobody documents it.
Each one is avoidable. A donor who understands the rule on day one can usually set the gift up right. Where the money comes from a business account rather than personal savings, Lendmire’s piece Gift Funds vs Business Funds for a Self-Employed Borrower’s Down Payment shows how lenders weigh the two sources.
Assistance has its own breakage. A program may have a closed funding window, an approved-lender list, or a property restriction. Second-lien programs also have eligible property types and an escrow holdback rule for minor repairs, capped at $5,000 with 150% of the estimate escrowed.
Can You Use Both?
Sometimes. Whether they stack is set by the assistance program and the loan type, not by the gift rules. Stacking one assistance program with another is not allowed. A family gift is a different category, but the lender must document both, and the program may count the gift toward your own contribution. Ask before you assume.
Think of three common layouts.
- A gift covers the minimum investment, and nothing else is used.
- Assistance covers the minimum investment, and a gift pays closing costs.
- A gift covers part of the minimum investment and assistance covers the rest, where the program permits.
Key Terms Defined
Minimum required investment: the buyer’s own stake in an FHA loan, 3.5% of the lesser of price or appraised value.
Gift letter: a signed statement from the donor that the money needs no repayment.
Second lien: a loan secured behind the first mortgage, repaid or forgiven under its own terms.
Balloon: a lump payment due at the end of a set term, year 10 on the repayable second.
Forgivable: a loan wiped out if you meet its conditions, here on-time first-lien payments.
A Balanced Verdict
Neither option is better in the abstract. A gift is the cleaner file when the family can give it and the paper trail holds. Assistance is the stronger tool when there is no family money, or when the gift falls short. The grant is the closest thing to a gift from a program. The forgivable second is a loan that fades if you pay on time. The repayable second is real debt, so treat it like one.
A good test: if a gift covers the whole minimum investment and the donor is willing to document it, use the gift. If not, price the assistance shapes against your credit score and your income. Tax treatment can depend on your situation; buyers should speak with a qualified tax professional before relying on any deduction or credit.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I use a family gift and down payment assistance on the same loan?
Sometimes. The assistance program sets the rule, and the lender has to document both sources. Assistance programs cannot be combined with each other. Ask the lender before you count on both.
Does a forgivable second count as a gift?
No. It is a loan secured by a lien, even though it is forgiven after 36 or 60 on-time first-lien payments. Under FHA’s definition, a gift needs no repayment and leaves no lien. Only the grant, with nothing to repay and no lien, behaves like one.
Do I need to be a first-time buyer to get assistance?
No. Repeat and move-up buyers qualify. The first-time definition is only one of the categories that unlock the grant’s income exception. The home must be your primary residence.
What credit score do I need for each option?
It depends on the shape: 620 for the grant, 640 for the forgivable second, and 660 for the repayable second and the refinance-cost second. A blended score can apply to the second liens when a co-borrower is involved. All of it is subject to lender guidelines and an automated underwriting finding.
Can my parents give me a gift for a USDA loan?
Yes. USDA’s program overview says gift and grant funds are allowed. The donor still cannot be tied to the builder, developer or agent, and the lender needs the transfer documented.
If you are buying a primary home and want to see whether a down payment assistance option fits your file, Lendmire can help you compare the grant, forgivable and repayable structures alongside an FHA, USDA or HUD-184 first mortgage.
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As a mortgage broker (NMLS# 2371349), Lendmire helps home buyers in 16 states pair an FHA, USDA or HUD-184 first lien with a down payment assistance option arranged through wholesale lenders. Lendmire is never the lender; program terms are set by the lender and the agency guidelines. Scotsman Guide named Lendmire a Top Mortgage Workplace in both 2025 and 2026.
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References
1. HUD FHA FAQ: minimum down payment requirement
2. USDA Rural Development: Single Family Housing Guaranteed overview
3. Urban Institute: Housing Finance at a Glance chartbook
4. Urban Institute: How expanding housing supply and supporting demand can increase homeownership
This article is part of Lendmire’s down payment assistance program — full qualification details, guidelines, and scenarios live on the program page.
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